30 Tips for Educating Children

If there are signs of crying in a child, then he should get enough attention and staffing. Surely his heart is like a pearl that is ready to accept everything that colors it.

If accustomed to good things, then he will develop with goodness, so that his parents and education participate in getting rewarded. On the contrary, if he is accustomed to bad things, then he will grow up with the evil. So the old man and his pedicure also bear the sin because of it.

Therefore, it is not appropriate for parents and educators to shirk this great responsibility by neglecting good education and planting good for it as part of its rights.

Among the adab-adab andtips in educating children are as follows:

1. Let the child be educated to eat with the right hand, read basmalah, start with the closest to him and not precede eating before the others (more importantly, red). Then prevent him from looking at food and eating.

2. Command him not to rush into eating. Should chew it well and do not put food into the mouth before it runs out in the mouth. Tell him to be careful and not to dirty clothes.

3. Should be trained not to be fancy in eating (must use a side dish of fish, meat and others) so as not to give the impression that eating must be with it. Also teach not to eat too much and give praise to such children. This is to prevent from bad habits, namely just a stomach.

4. Instilled in him in order to put others first in terms of food and trained with simple food, so that it is not too in love with the good that at the end of the day it will be difficult for him to let go.

5. It is very preferred if he wears white clothes, not colorful and not silk. And it is asserted that silk is only for women.

6. If any other boy is wearing the law, then it should be denied. Likewise if he isbal (sticking out his clothes to exceed the ankles). Don't let them get along with these things.

7. Should children be kept from hanging out with children who used to boast and behave arrogantly. If this is allowed then it could be that when he grows up he will practice. Bad relationships will affect the child. It could be that after adulthood he has bad morals, such as: Lying, complaining, stubborn, feeling great and others, as a result of wrong association in his childhood. This can be prevented by providing good education as early as possible to them.

8. It must be instilled love for the qur'an and books, especially in the library. Reading the Qur'an with its tafsir, hadiths of the Prophet n and also the lessons of jurisprudence and others. He must also be accustomed to memorizing the good advice, the history of the people and zuhuds, sharpening his soul in order to always love and imitate them.

He should also be informed of the book and the understanding of Asy'ariyah, Mu'tazilah, Rafidhah and also other groups so as not to fall into it. Similarly, many cults are scattered in the surrounding area, in accordance with the level of ability of the child.

9. He must be kept away from the verses of love gombal and just obey the passions, because this can be a heart and soul.

10. Make it a habit to write beautifully (khath) and memorize verses about morality and noble morals. It all shows the perfection of nature and is a beautiful decoration.

11. If the child does praise and noble morals do not hesitate to praise him or give a reward that can be happy for him. If one time commits an annoyance, it should not be spread in front of others while being advised that what he is doing is not good.

12. If he repeats the bad deed, then he should be scolded in a separate place and show the level of his guilt. Tell him if they keep doing that, people will hate it.

And underestimate it. But do not be too often or easily scolded, because that will make him immune and unaffected again with anger.

13. A father should maintain authority in communication with the child. Don't vilify or speak rudely, except at certain times. While a mother wants to create a feeling of respect and disgy towards the father and warns children that if they do badly it will get anger and anger from the father.

14. Should be prevented from sleeping in the day because it causes laziness (unless absolutely necessary). Conversely, at night if you want to sleep, then let him sleep (do not force with certain activities, red) because it can cause stupidity and weakening of the body condition.

15. Do not provide for him a luxurious and tender bed because it causes the body to become complacent and washed away in pleasure. This can result in the joints becoming me due to too long sleep and lack of movement.

16. Do not get used to doing things in secret, for when he does it, there is none other than the belief that it is not good.

17. Make it a habit for children to do sports or body movements in the morning so as not to arise laziness. If you have archery skills (or shooting, red), riding horses, swimming, then it's okay to concern yourself with the activity.

18. Do not let the child get used to the pain, haste and depart (beracak) waist like the actions of someone who collapses themselves.

19. Forbid him from boasting about what his parents have, his clothes or food in front of a playmate. Get used to tawadhu', meek and respect his friend.

20. Grow up with children (especially men) so as not to love gold and silver too much and be greedy for both. Instill the fear of the dangers of loving gold and breeding excessively, beyond the fear of snakes or scorpions.

21. Prevent him from taking something from his friend, either from a wealthy family, therefore it is reproach, humiliation and lowering authority, or from the poor, for it is greedy or greedy. Instead, teach him to give because it is a noble and honorable deed.

22. Keep him away from the habit of spitting in the middle of councils or public places, throwing snot when there are others, turning his back on fellow Muslims and yawning a lot.

23. Teach him to sit on the floor on his knees or by upholding his right leg and throwing the one that is left or sitting by hugging both backs of the legs with the second position upright. Thus the ways of sitting are exemplified by the ProphetShallallaahu alaihi wa sallam.

24. Prevent him from speaking much, except those who are useful or dhikr to God.

25. Prevent the child from swearing a lot, either his oath is true or a lie so that it does not become a habit.

26. He must also be prevented from heinous and vain words such as curses or berating. Also prevent from hanging out with people who like to do that.

27. Encourage him to have a soul of blessing and patience in difficult conditions. Praise him if he is honest, because praise will encourage him to get used to it.

28. Children should be given positive toys or comfort to release fatigue or refreshing, after completing learning, reading in the library or doing other activities.

29. If the child has reached the age of seven years then it should be instructed to pray and should not be allowed to leave sanctifying (ablution) beforehand. Prevent it from lying and wrong. And if it has been puberty, then burden him with the commandments.

30. Make it a habit for children to behave with parents, teachers, teachers (ustadz) and in general to those who are older. Teach them to look at them with respect. And as much as possible prevented from playing around on their side (disturbing them).

Thus there are those related to the education of children in the tamyiz period until the time leading up to puberty. The above description is intended for boys' education. Although there are some of the above, many of the above, which can also be prepared for girls' education.

From mathwiyat Darul Qasim "tsalasunwasilah li ta'dib al abna"" asy Shaykh Muhammad bin shalih al Utsaiminrahimahullah . Translated by Ubaidillah Masyhadi